Narrator: Mu‘āwiya al-Qushayrī
حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ بَشَّارٍ، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا بَهْزُ بْنُ حَكِيمٍ، حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي، عَنْ جَدِّي، قَالَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ نِسَاؤُنَا مَا نَأْتِي مِنْهُنَّ وَمَا نَذَرُ قَالَ "
ائْتِ حَرْثَكَ أَنَّى شِئْتَ وَأَطْعِمْهَا إِذَا طَعِمْتَ وَاكْسُهَا إِذَا اكْتَسَيْتَ وَلاَ تُقَبِّحِ الْوَجْهَ وَلاَ تَضْرِبْ "
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Bahz bin Hakim reported on the authority of his father from his grandfather (Mu'awiyah ibn Haydah) as saying:
I said: Messenger of Allah, how should we approach our wives and how should we leave them? He replied: Approach your tilth when or how you will, give her (your wife) food when you take food, clothe when you clothe yourself, do not revile her face, and do not beat her.
Abu Dawud said: The version of Shu'bah has: That you give her food when you have food yourself, and that you clothe her when you clothe yourself.
Reported by Abu Dawud (No. 2143 ).
Commentary by Al-Azimabadi — Awn al-Ma'bud: study view
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Al-Azimabadi — Awn al-Ma'bud
( يَا رَسُول اللَّه نِسَاؤُنَا ) : أَيْ أَزْوَاجنَا ( مَا نَأْتِي مِنْهُنَّ ) : أَيْ مَا نَسْتَمْتِع مِنْ أَزْوَاجنَا ( وَمَا نَذَر ) : أَيْ وَمَا نَتْرُك ( اِئْتِ حَرْثك ) : أَيْ مَحَلّ الْحَرْث مِنْ حَلِيلَتك وَهُوَ قُبُلهَا إِذْ هُوَ لَك بِمَنْزِلَةِ الْأَرْض تُزْرَع. وَذِكْر الْحَرْث يَدُلّ عَلَى أَنَّ الْإِتْيَان فِي غَيْر الْمَأْتَى حَرَام ( أَنَّى شِئْت ) : أَيْ كَيْفَ شِئْت مِنْ قِيَام وَقُعُود وَاضْطِجَاع وَإِقْبَال وَإِدْبَار بِأَنْ يَأْتِيهَا فِي قُبُلهَا مِنْ جِهَة دُبْرهَا. وَفِيهِ رَدّ عَلَى الْيَهُود حَيْثُ قَالُوا مَنْ أَتَى اِمْرَأَة فِي قُبُلهَا مِنْ جِهَة دُبُرهَا جَاءَ الْوَلَد أَحْوَل ( وَأَطْعِمْهَا ) : بِفَتْحِ الْهَمْزَة ( إِذَا طَعِمْت ) : بِتَاءِ الْخِطَاب لَا التَّ…
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Scholars’ grades
The 4 scholars cited do not give the same grade: each one is shown below.
Scholar Grade Applies to Work
Al-Albanid. 1420 AH
Authentic Hasan Sahih حسن صحيح The hadith
No. 2143
Shu'ayb al-Arna'utd. 1438 AH
Good (hasan) Hasan The hadith
No. 2143
Zubair Ali Zaid. 1435 AH
Good chain (hasan) Isnaad Hasan The chain only
No. 2143
Muhammad Muhyi al-Din Abd al-Hamidd. 1392 AH
Authentic Hasan Sahih The hadith
No. 2143
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مسند الروياني (906)ائْتِ حَرْثَكَ أَنَّى شِئْتَ ، غَيْرَ أَنْ لا تُقَبِّحَ الْوَجْهَ وَلا تَضْرِبْ ، وَأَطْعِمْهَا إِذَا طَعِمْتَ ، وَاكْسُهَا إِذَا اكْتَسَيْتَ ، وَلا تَهْجُرْهَا إِلا فِي الْبَيْتِ ، كَيْفَ وَقَدْ أَفْضَى بَعْضُكُمْ إِلَى بَعْضٍ بِمَا حَلَّ عَلَيْهَا ؟ !
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Not graded Musnad Ahmad 19177
Narrated by Mu‘āwiya al-Qushayrī + 8 other versions Arabic only
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