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Jami' at-TirmidhiThe Book on Marriage

Jami' at-Tirmidhi 1135

Chapter: What Has Been Related About A Man Is Not To Propose To A Woman Who Has Been Proposed To By His Brother

Authentic 4 scholars’ grades Jami' at-Tirmidhi 1135

Narrator:Fātima bint Qays

حَدَّثَنَا مَحْمُودُ بْنُ غَيْلاَنَ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو دَاوُدَ، قَالَ أَنْبَأَنَا شُعْبَةُ، قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي الْجَهْمِ، قَالَ دَخَلْتُ أَنَا وَأَبُو سَلَمَةَ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ عَلَى فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتِ قَيْسٍ فَحَدَّثَتْنَا أَنَّ زَوْجَهَا طَلَّقَهَا ثَلاَثًا وَلَمْ يَجْعَلْ لَهَا سُكْنَى وَلاَ نَفَقَةً ‏.‏ قَالَتْ وَوَضَعَ لِي عَشَرَةَ أَقْفِزَةٍ عِنْدَ ابْنِ عَمٍّ لَهُ خَمْسَةً شَعِيرًا وَخَمْسَةً بُرًّا ‏.‏ قَالَتْ فَأَتَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لَهُ ‏.‏ قَالَتْ فَقَالَ ‏"‏ صَدَقَ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَتْ فَأَمَرَنِي أَنْ أَعْتَدَّ فِي بَيْتِ أُمِّ شَرِيكٍ ثُمَّ قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏

"‏ إِنَّ بَيْتَ أُمِّ شَرِيكٍ بَيْتٌ يَغْشَاهُ الْمُهَاجِرُونَ وَلَكِنِ اعْتَدِّي فِي بَيْتِ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ فَعَسَى أَنْ تُلْقِي ثِيَابَكِ فَلاَ يَرَاكِ فَإِذَا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُكِ فَجَاءَ أَحَدٌ يَخْطُبُكِ فَآذِنِينِي ‏"‏ ‏.‏ فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتِي خَطَبَنِي أَبُو جَهْمٍ وَمُعَاوِيَةُ ‏.‏ قَالَتْ فَأَتَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لَهُ فَقَالَ ‏"‏ أَمَّا مُعَاوِيَةُ فَرَجُلٌ لاَ مَالَ لَهُ وَأَمَّا أَبُو جَهْمٍ فَرَجُلٌ شَدِيدٌ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ ‏"

Abu Bakr bin Al-Jahm narrated:

"Abu Salamah bin Abdur-Rahman and I visited Fatimah bint Qais. She narrated to us that her husband had divorced her three times, and he did not leave her with anywhere to live nor any wealth. She said: 'He left ten Aqfizah for me with the son of his uncle: five were of barley, five of wheat.' She said: 'I went to the Messenger of Allah and mentioned that to him.' She said: 'He said: 'He is correct.'" (She said: ) 'So he ordered me to complete my Iddah in the home of Umm Sharik. But then the Messenger of Allah said to me: "Umm Sharik's home is visited by Muhajirun, so spend your Iddah in the home of Ibn Umm Maktum, for there you can remove your garments and he will not see you. Then when your Iddah is completed and someone proposed to you come to me." 'So when my Iddah completed. Abu Jahm and Mu'awiyah proposed to me.' She said: 'I went to the Messenger of Allah and mentioned that to him, and he said: "As for Mu'awiyah, he is a man with no wealth, and as for Abu Jahm he is a man who is harsh with women." She said: 'Then Usamah bin Zaid proposed to me, and he married me. So Allah blessed me with Usamah.'"

Reported by At-Tirmidhi (No. 1135).

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Al-Mubarakfuri — Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi

قَوْلُهُ : ( عَلَى فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتِ قَيْسٍ ) أَيْ الْقُرَشِيَّةِ أُخْتِ الضَّحَّاكِ كَانَتْ مِنْ الْمُهَاجِرَاتِ الْأُوَلِ ( فَحَدَّثَتْ أَنَّ زَوْجَهَا طَلَّقَهَا ثَلَاثًا ) , وَفِي رِوَايَةٍ لِمُسْلِمٍ وَغَيْرِهِ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا بِتَطْلِيقَةٍ كَانَتْ بَقِيَتْ لَهَا ( وَوَضَعَ لِي عَشْرَةَ أَقْفِزَةٍ ) جَمْعُ قَفِيزٍ وَهُوَ مِكْيَالٌ مَعْرُوفٌ ( خَمْسَةٌ شَعِيرٌ وَخَمْسَةٌ بُرٌّ ) بَدَلٌ مِنْ عَشْرَةَ أَقْفِزَةٍ ( فَقَالَ صَدَقَ ) أَيْ فِي عَدَمِ جَعْلِهِ لَك السُّكْنَى وَالنَّفَقَةَ. ( يَغْشَاهَا الْمُهَاجِرُونَ ) أَيْ يَدْخُلُونَ عَلَيْهَا ( فَعَسَى أَنْ تُلْقِي ثِيَابَك فَلَا يَرَاك ) قَالَ النَّوَوِيُّ اِحْتَجَّ بَعْضُ النَّاسِ بِهَذَا عَلَى جَوَازِ نَظَرِ الْمَرْأَةِ إِلَى الْأَجْنَ…

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Scholars’ grades

ScholarGradeApplies toWork
Al-Albanid. 1420 AH AuthenticSahih The hadith No. 1135
Zubair Ali Zaid. 1435 AH AuthenticSahih Muslim The hadith No. 1135
Ahmad Shakird. 1377 AH AuthenticSahih The hadith No. 1135
Bashar Awwad Ma'ruf AuthenticSahih The hadith No. 1135

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  • أحكام القرآن الكريم للطحاوي (1419)اعْتَدِّي فِي بَيْتِ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ
  • أحكام القرآن الكريم للطحاوي (1424)تَعْتَدَّ فِي بَيْتِ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ
  • أحكام القرآن الكريم للطحاوي (1425)اعْتَدِّي فِي بَيْتِ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ
  • شرح معاني الآثار للطحاوي (2917)اعْتَدِّي فِي بَيْتِ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ
  • شرح معاني الآثار للطحاوي (2921)اعْتَدِّي فِي بَيْتِ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ
  • معرفة السنن والآثار للبيهقي (4101)أَنْ تَعْتَدَّ فِي بَيْتِ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ
  • معرفة الصحابة لأبي نعيم (7253)أَعْتَدَّ فِي بَيْتِ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ

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