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Sahih al-Bukhari 5080

Chapter: The marrying of matrons

Authentic hadith of Sahih al-Bukhari Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Sahih al-Bukhari 5080

Narrator:Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh

حَدَّثَنَا آدَمُ، حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، حَدَّثَنَا مُحَارِبٌ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ جَابِرَ بْنَ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، رضى الله عنهما يَقُولُ تَزَوَّجْتُ فَقَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ مَا تَزَوَّجْتَ ‏"‏‏.‏ فَقُلْتُ تَزَوَّجْتُ ثَيِّبًا‏.‏ فَقَالَ ‏"‏ مَا لَكَ وَلِلْعَذَارَى وَلِعَابِهَا ‏"‏‏.‏ فَذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لِعَمْرِو بْنِ دِينَارٍ فَقَالَ عَمْرٌو سَمِعْتُ جَابِرَ بْنَ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ يَقُولُ قَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ هَلاَّ

جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ ‏"

Narrated Jabir bin `Abdullah:

When I got married, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said to me, "What type of lady have you married?" I replied, "I have married a matron' He said, "Why, don't you have a liking for the virgins and for fondling them?" Jabir also said: Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you might play with her and she with you?'

Reported by Al-Bukhari (No. 5080, 5079, 5245, 5247), Muslim (No. 715h, 715w), Abu Dawud (No. 2778), Ahmad (No. 13730) and Ad-Darimi (No. 2119).

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Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani — Fath al-Bari

قَوْله ( تَزَوَّجْت , فَقَالَ لِي رَسُول اللَّه صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : مَا تَزَوَّجْت ) ؟ هَذَا ظَاهِره أَنَّ السُّؤَال وَقَعَ عَقِب تَزَوُّجه , وَلَيْسَ كَذَلِكَ لِمَا دَلَّ عَلَيْهِ سِيَاق الْحَدِيث الَّذِي قَبْله , وَقَدْ تَقَدَّمَ فِي الْكَلَام عَلَى حَدِيث جَمَلِ جَابِر فِي كِتَاب الشُّرُوط فِي آخِره أَنَّ بَيْن تَزَوُّجه وَالسُّؤَال الَّذِي دَار بَيْنه وَبَيْن النَّبِيّ صَلَّى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَفِي ذَلِكَ مُدَّة طَوِيلَة…

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Authentic Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Sahih al-Bukhari 5079

While we were returning from a Ghazwa (Holy Battle) with the Prophet, I started driving my camel fast, as it was a lazy camel A rider came behind me and pricked my camel with a spear he had with him, and then my camel started running as fast as the best camel you may see. Behold! The rider was the…

جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ ‏"‏‏.‏ قَالَ فَلَمَّا ذَهَبْنَا لِنَدْخُلَ قَالَ ‏"‏ أَمْهِلُوا حَتَّى تَدْخُلُوا لَيْلاً ـ أَىْ عِشَاءً ـ لِكَىْ تَمْتَشِطَ الشَّعِثَةُ وَتَسْتَحِدَّ الْمُغِيبَةُ ‏"

Narrated by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh

Authentic Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Sahih al-Bukhari 5245

I was with Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) in a Ghazwa, and when we returned, I wanted to hurry, while riding a slow camel. A rider came behind me. I looked back and saw that the rider was Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) . He said (to me), "What makes you in such a hurry?" I replied, "I am newly married." He said…

جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ ‏"‏‏.‏ قَالَ فَلَمَّا قَدِمْنَا ذَهَبْنَا لِنَدْخُلَ فَقَالَ ‏"‏ أَمْهِلُوا حَتَّى تَدْخُلُوا لَيْلاً ـ أَىْ عِشَاءً ـ لِكَىْ تَمْتَشِطَ الشَّعِثَةُ وَتَسْتَحِدَّ الْمُغِيبَةُ ‏"

Narrated by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh

Authentic Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Sahih al-Bukhari 5247

We were with the Prophet (ﷺ) in Ghazwa, and when we returned and approached Medina, I wanted to hurry while riding a slow camel. A rider overtook me and pricked my camel with a spear which he had, whereupon my camel started running as fast as any other fast camel you may see. I looked back, and…

بِكْرًا تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ ‏"‏‏.‏ قَالَ فَلَمَّا قَدِمْنَا ذَهَبْنَا لِنَدْخُلَ، فَقَالَ ‏"‏ أَمْهِلُوا حَتَّى تَدْخُلُوا لَيْلاً ـ أَىْ عِشَاءً ـ لِكَىْ تَمْتَشِطَ الشَّعِثَةُ، وَتَسْتَحِدَّ الْمُغِيبَةُ ‏"

Narrated by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh

Authentic Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Sahih Muslim 715h

We were with Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) in an expedition. When we returned I urged my camel to move quickly as it was slow. There met me a rider from behind me and he goaded it with an iron-tipped stick which he had with him. My camel moved forward like the best that you have ever seen. As I turned (my…

أَبِكْرًا تَزَوَّجْتَهَا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ قُلْتُ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ هَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ فَلَمَّا قَدِمْنَا الْمَدِينَةَ ذَهَبْنَا لِنَدْخُلَ فَقَالَ ‏"‏…

Narrated by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh

Authentic Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Sahih Muslim 715w

We accompanied the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) on an expedition. When we came (back) to Medina and were going to enter our houses, he said: Wait and enter (your houses) in the later part of the evening so that a woman with dishevelled hair may have used the comb, and a woman whose husband has been away…

أَمْهِلُوا حَتَّى نَدْخُلَ لَيْلاً - أَىْ عِشَاءً - كَىْ تَمْتَشِطَ الشَّعِثَةُ وَتَسْتَحِدَّ الْمُغِيبَةُ ‏"

Narrated by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh

Authentic Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Sunan Abu Dawud 2778

Jabir bin ‘Abd Allaah said “We were on a journey with the Apostle of Allaah(ﷺ). When we were going to come to our family, he said “Stay till we enter during the night, so that the disheveled woman combs herself and the woman whose husband has been away cleans herself. Abu Dawud aid “Al Zuhri said…

أَمْهِلُوا حَتَّى نَدْخُلَ لَيْلاً لِكَىْ تَمْتَشِطَ الشَّعِثَةُ وَتَسْتَحِدَّ الْمُغِيبَةُ ‏"

Narrated by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh

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Not graded Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Musnad Ahmad 13730

حَدَّثَنَا هُشَيْمٌ أَخْبَرَنَا سَيَّارٌ عَنْ الشَّعْبِيِّ عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ كُنَّا مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي سَفَرٍ فَلَمَّا رَجَعْنَا ذَهَبْنَا لِنَدْخُلَ فَقَالَ أَمْهِلُوا حَتَّى…

Narrated by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh Arabic only

Not graded Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Sunan ad-Darimi 2119

أَخْبَرَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ مُطِيعٍ حَدَّثَنَا هُشَيْمٌ أَخْبَرَنَا سَيَّارٌ عَنْ الشَّعْبِيِّ حَدَّثَنَا جَابِرُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ كُنَّا مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي سَفَرٍ…

Narrated by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh Arabic only

Not graded Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Bulugh al-Maram 1016

We were with the Prophet (ﷺ) on an expedition. Then, when we arrived at al-Madinah and were about to enter he said, "Wait so that you may enter by night - i.e. in the evening in order that the woman with disheveled hair may comb it and the woman whose husband has been away may shave her pubic hairs…

وَعَنْ جَابِرٍ ‏- رضى الله عنه ‏- قَالَ : { كُنَّا مَعَ رَسُولِ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-فِي غَزَاةٍ , فَلَمَّا قَدِمْنَا اَلْمَدِينَةَ , ذَهَبْنَا لِنَدْخُلَ .‏ فَقَالَ : " أَمْهِلُوا حَتَّى تَدْخُلُوا لَيْلًا…

Narrated by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh

Authentic Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Mishkat al-Masabih 3088

When we were near Medina on our return from an expedition in which we had accompanied the Prophet I told him that I had recently married. He asked, “Have you married?" and when I told him that I had, he asked whether I had married a virgin or a woman who had previously been married. On my telling…

وَعَنْ جَابِرٍ: قَالَ: كُنَّا مَعَ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي غَزْوَةِ فَلَمَّا قَفَلْنَا كُنَّا قَرِيبًا مِنَ الْمَدِينَةِ قُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنِّي حَدِيثُ عَهْدٍ بعرس قَالَ…

Narrated by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh

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  • المسند المستخرج على صحيح مسلم لأبي نعيم (3172)فَهَلَّا جَارِيَةً تُلاعِبُهَا وَتُلاعِبُكَ ، قَالَ : فَإِذَا قَدِمْتَ الْكَيْسَ ، فَلَمَّا ذَهَبْنَا لِنَدْخُلَ ، قَالَ : أَمْهِلُوا حَتَّى نَدْخُلَ لَيْلا ، لِكَيْ تُمَشَّطَ الشَّعِثَةُ ، وَتَسْتَحِدَّ الْمُغِيبَةُ
  • المسند المستخرج على صحيح مسلم لأبي نعيم (3173)فَهَلَّا جَارِيَةً تُلاعِبُهَا وَتُلاعِبُكَ ، قُلْتُ : إِنَّ لِي أَخَوَاتٍ ، فَأَحْبَبْتُ أَنْ أَتَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً تَجْمَعُهُنَّ ، وَتُمَشِّطُهُنَّ ، وَتَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ ، قَالَ : أَمَا إِنَّكَ قَادِمٌ ، فَإِذَا قَدِمْتَ ، فَالْكَيْسَ الْكَيْسَ
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Not graded Bulugh al-Maram 785

I was traveling on a camel of mine which had become exhausted, so I intended to let it go free. The Prophet (ﷺ) followed me and made supplication for me and struck it. Then, it went as it had never done before. He then said, "Sell it to me for on Uqiya." I replied, "No." He again said, "Sell it to…

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Authentic Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Sahih al-Bukhari 2385

While I was in the company of the Prophet (ﷺ) in one of his Ghazawat, he asked, "What is wrong with your camel? Will you sell it?" I replied in the affirmative and sold it to him. When he reached Medina, I took the camel to him in the morning and he paid me its price.

كَيْفَ تَرَى بَعِيرَكَ أَتَبِيعُنِيهِ ‏"‏‏.‏ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ‏.‏ فَبِعْتُهُ إِيَّاهُ، فَلَمَّا قَدِمَ الْمَدِينَةَ غَدَوْتُ إِلَيْهِ بِالْبَعِيرِ، فَأَعْطَانِي ثَمَنَهُ‏.‏

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Authentic Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Sahih al-Bukhari 3089

Jabir bin `Abdullah said, "When Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) arrived at Medina, he slaughtered a camel or a cow." Jabir added, "The Prophet (ﷺ) bought a camel from me for two Uqiyas (of gold) and one or two Dirhams. When he reached Sirar, he ordered that a cow be slaughtered and they ate its meat. When he…

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Narrated by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh + 2 other versions

Authentic Muttafaq ‘alayh (Bukhari and Muslim) Sahih al-Bukhari 2309

I was accompanying the Prophet (ﷺ) on a journey and was riding a slow camel that was lagging behind the others. The Prophet (ﷺ) passed by me and asked, "Who is this?" I replied, "Jabir bin `Abdullah." He asked, "What is the matter, (why are you late)?" I replied, "I am riding a slow camel." He…

كُنْتُ مَعَ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فِي سَفَرٍ، فَكُنْتُ عَلَى جَمَلٍ ثَفَالٍ، إِنَّمَا هُوَ فِي آخِرِ الْقَوْمِ، فَمَرَّ بِي النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ ‏"‏ مَنْ هَذَا ‏"‏‏.‏ قُلْتُ جَابِرُ بْنُ عَبْدِ…

Narrated by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh + 2 other versions

Authentic Sahih al-Bukhari 4052

"Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said to me, "Have you got married O Jabir?" I replied, "Yes." He asked "What, a virgin or a matron?" I replied, "Not a virgin but a matron." He said, "Why did you not marry a young girl who would have fondled with you?" I replied, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! My father was…

"‏ هَلْ نَكَحْتَ يَا جَابِرُ ‏"‏‏.‏ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ مَاذَا أَبِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا ‏"‏‏.‏ قُلْتُ لاَ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ فَهَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُكَ ‏"‏‏.‏ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، إِنَّ أَبِي…

Narrated by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh + 2 other versions

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